The most misunderstood emotion – SILENCE

The most misunderstood emotion

SILENCE

When someone is silent they are not always angry, they are deeply Hurt

When someone is silent they are not arrogant, they chose to be humble by letting go and moving on

When someone is silent they are not disrespectful, they chose to respect you by not hurting you back

When someone is silent, you cannot hear them cry, their heart is learning to hold it inside

When someone is silent they are not hating you, they are loving you without showing it

When someone is silent they are not weak, they are one of the strongest people you ever met

When someone is silent they are not guilty, they don’t feel the need to prove their innocence to you

When someone is silent they do not despair, they hold the rope of hope for a better day

When someone is silent it is not a reaction, it is a thoughtful response.

Silence is not shallow, it is deep and rarely people understand it.

-JoyfulSolitude

Do you have that smile??

Do you have that smile??

The one that touches the soul and imprints it with joy. That smile is contagious, it has the glitter in the eyes and gold in the heart.

It holds the power to mend the broken hearts

It holds the power to make you smile even when you don’t want to

It holds the power to change your mood even when you had a rough day,

It holds the power to turn the hearts from hard to soft

It holds the power to turn the frown to joy

It holds the power to turn the poverty of emotions to richness of emotions

It holds the power to change the rivalry to friendship

It holds the power to stop the tongue from uttering that hurtful word

It holds the power to cool down the anger and save from regret

It holds the power to love even when there is hate all around

It holds the power to show trust even when times are hard

Do you have that smile?

If this is your smile pass it on to someone today, it would make them smile too. If you are already smiling as you read this, share this with your loved ones.
If you have someone who smiles at you everyday, love them and respect them, hold on to them because they are special.

STOP Comparing your loved ones and yourself with others !! Today!!

Are you guilty of comparing your loved ones or yourself to someone around you??

Did you grow up being always told to be like your siblings, or some random kid in the class or in your parent’s friend circle ? Is this sounding common to you??

This is the root cause of comparision, it all starts from childhood and the cycle continues, the same kid grows up being compared all his life and then does the same with his own kids too and this vicious cycle continues.

Now, what’s wrong with comparision? Aren’t you encouraging your child or friend or lover to be better by showing how others are doing it??

NO, YOU ARE PREPARING THEM FOR LOW SELF ESTEEM ISSUES WHICH WILL EVENTUALLY PUT THEM INTO DEPRESSION.

This not only happens to kids, but with adults too who once happened to be strong individuals who then lost themselves in this chaotic world.

WHAT YOU CAN DO TO ENCOURAGE SOMEONE FOR THEIR BETTERMENT??

1. CELEBRATE THEIR INDIVIDUALITY. You need to understand human nature, every human has a set of skills, a temperament, their level of understanding which is unique from another human. This is FACT. Don’t try to alter and don’t try to make someone what they can’t be. Be at peace with their identity.

2. SUGGEST THEM, DONT FORCE. You know people become defensive when something is forced on them. Be it rituals, behaviours, rigid rules, culture norms etc. Ever faced anger moments when you stopped your friend from drinking? Or from husband/wife when you stopped them from behaving a certain way? Or from a kid whom you stopped for throwing tantrums?

3. APPRECIATE THEIR STRENGTHS The times we live in, it is hard for people to appreciate even their loved ones, hardwork goes unnoticed, small love gestures go unnoticed. Why? Wives are not appreciated by husbands for the work they put because it’s considered a obligation and vice versa. Kids are not appreciated by parents for scoring average marks because he was expected to get first-class. Couples don’t appreciate their elderly parents who brought them up for all the years. Friends don’t appreciate each other who go out of the way to make them feel special because some other friend did a bigger and even better act for them. Why? Why have people become so harsh to each other? Relax, it’s time to appreciate the little things in life, focus on people’s strengths, ignore their weaknesses because we all have in us.

4. DONT TALK, COMMUNICATE AT DEEPER LEVELS. Most of the people don’t know the difference between talking and holding a meaningful conversation. In this technology trapped world it is very easy to avoid much communication with anyone. This is a major cause which changes people’s behaviour towards their loved ones. Are you guilty of making someone feel lonely in a relationship? You definitely owe an apology. When was the last time you interacted with your loved one without any gadgets around, away from your screen. It is common to see one person talking, and the other one replying while using their smart screens. This often leaves the other person feeling neglected and less valued. If you are serious about your relation, make an effort to listen to them, come up with solutions, comfort them with your warmth, don’t brush of their worries just because you feel they are vague and not a big deal. Show empathy and affection, if they share it with you, it took a lot of courage to even speak about it. So don’t judge anybody for anything, you don’t have that right.

Everyone deserves to be treated best, don’t judge people or compare people.

When you compare each other, you don’t know the damage you are doing to their mental health, the person eventually will lose himself trying to meet those expectations and fall into depression which can even cost their life. This is a serious issue, respect each other for who they are. Follow positive constructiveness in relations and most important do it together, hand in hand. That’s when life will become meaningful.

Finding yourself in the chaos of this world…

The world today is such a place,

Chaos is what is left of today,

With every being struggling to live, we can no more rely on someone elses’s will

It’s hard to have your opinion in this world, but remember it’s the only thing you will not regret.

Most are those who will give you words of sympathy and say time will change everything and move on, rare are those who hold your hand and say I will be with you through this time.

Don’t lose yourself trying to meet everybody’s expectations, it is human nature to never be pleased.

Don’t lose yourself for someone who doesn’t respect your feelings, for that person will never know the sweetness of affection and empathy.

Don’t lose yourself for those who make you feel less capable, they don’t know what you were before you met them.

Dont lose yourself for those who blame you for the situation, they will not admit their role which led to it.

Don’t lose yourself for those who do not value your tears, they can sleep as you cry alone.

Don’t lose yourself for those who don’t make you feel as their priority in life, if they are not doing now, they never will.

Don’t lose yourself for those who do not encourage you to your goals, they are the ones who never had dreams.

Don’t lose yourself for those who think you are not strong, they are unaware of the struggles that made you strongest. They are unaware that you chose them to show your scars because of the love you have for them, you chose to show the side of you the world had never seen.

Find yourself, pull yourself out from the chaos. You can do it because you were always the strong one, don’t let others pull you down with them. There are always those rare people around you who will be happy to see your shine. Live for them.

Finally we are what choices we make for ourselves. Depend on noone for your well being and happiness. This is the best you can do for yourself in this chaotic world. Period.