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Being happy is a choice
While you think about the things you don’t have.
There is someone who is being grateful for what they got.
While you count the sorrows in your life.
There is someone who is counting their blessings.
While you see the half cup empty.
There is someone who sees their half cup full.
While you wait for validation by the world.
There is someone who has no choice but to beleive in themselves.
-JoyfulSolitude
Alina R
The friend that stabbed you – In Front
What is better than a friend who betrays you ? An enemy. Right
But does an enemy really exist? Is it true that you can have enemy and friends.
Think again. When you think deeply you will realise the one you calling your enemy was once a friend to you. You cannot have a stranger as your enemy right. It’s a known person and enemy is a strong word to use for someone.
So a friend who betrays you has qualified to be an enemy in your mind.
It’s all in your mind. The definitions of friends and enemies are generated in the minds, it dominates your behaviour towards them. These definations are different from person to person because two people cannot think exactly the same. They process the information differently and attain different perspectives about the situation.
What we want to focus today is have you termed your good friend to be in your enemy category? It’s a trend these days. Surely you wouldn’t be using the word “enemy” to refer them. But you treat them exactly the same way.
You would block them on social media. Ignore their calls, distant yourself from them. Blame them for whatever happened to you. Make them feel guilty of their actions. Give them the silent treatment indefinitely.
Sounds familiar right? You must be justifying yourself by saying they deserve it because they did the injustice to you. But deep in your heart you know you love them so much and want everything to be like before.
Well this dilemma, it’s your inner voice, your gut. Just listen to it. If you get this feeling for someone then you are right, it’s time to let go and get them back to you.
Think about the reason what they did to you. I am by your side if they really violated your soul and compromised your self respect and dignity. Then it’s better to keep them away from your life.
But if they dint do something harsh, or they did something with the right intention thinking of your betterment then you might have been wrong about them.
A friend that says bitter truths to you on your face is truly your friend not your enemy. Don’t abandon them. You may not find such people nowadays as they are so rare. People who deeply care about you, who can’t stand something wrong being done by others to you. They see right through the faces of people who wish to hurt you. But you don’t beleive them and put them aside. The future generations will not feel friendships like we do. You are lucky to have even a single friend in your life.
Life is too short to be unhappy with your closed ones. Don’t give up the many good moments you had and can have for the one bad one. All relations go through ups and downs and it’s okay. It’s okay to be angry, sad, disappointed. But don’t let it get the better of you.
“Bounce back like a boomerang and you are good to go
A friend that stabs you in front is better than the back who stabs you from back. “
Who I am?
The man down the lane once asked who I am?
People said he was selfish, only cared about himself. The man was considerate but it wasn’t always noticed.
People said he was insensitive, dint show emotions. The man always struggled to express his bottled up emotions.
People said he was racist, supported only his kind. The man was a victim of racism and hatred and chose to support his kind so they don’t feel humiliated like he did.
People said he was a coward, did not support feminism. The man was once thrown into jail for false accusations by a woman.
People said he was unlucky for love, nobody liked him. The man once trusted someone and gave his heart, only to be broken by betrayal.
People said he never tried enough. The man was exhausted trying every possible way and it dint work.
People said he was a depressed man, trying to end his life. The man was only struggling to find his place in the society which was so judgemental and sharp as a knife.
The most misunderstood emotion – SILENCE
The most misunderstood emotion
SILENCE
When someone is silent they are not always angry, they are deeply Hurt
When someone is silent they are not arrogant, they chose to be humble by letting go and moving on
When someone is silent they are not disrespectful, they chose to respect you by not hurting you back
When someone is silent, you cannot hear them cry, their heart is learning to hold it inside
When someone is silent they are not hating you, they are loving you without showing it
When someone is silent they are not weak, they are one of the strongest people you ever met
When someone is silent they are not guilty, they don’t feel the need to prove their innocence to you
When someone is silent they do not despair, they hold the rope of hope for a better day
When someone is silent it is not a reaction, it is a thoughtful response.
Silence is not shallow, it is deep and rarely people understand it.
-JoyfulSolitude
How to declutter your life in short time with practical solutions
These days we all are so occupied with work and chores, it takes up all of our time and energy.
As we work we also pile up a lot of clutter and we procrastinate as long as we can until it gets too stressful and finally you have to get rid of it at any cost.
Below are some ways you can declutter your life
1. Create your to-do list everyday
Make a list of tasks to be done a night before everyday.
This is a great start for the day, you get your tasks for the day in the morning.
Arrange your tasks starting from the one most important to least important. This way you would have completed all your important tasks by the end of the day.
It is also a satisfying stress buster to cross out tasks from your to-do list.
2. Maintain a cleaning schedule for your house and office desk
It doesn’t need to be stressed how essential it is to keep your trash in trash and not somewhere else.
Keeping our areas clean gives us mental peace and keeps away from the anxiety.
C\nThese days we all are so occupied with work and chores, it takes up all of our time and energy.\n \nAs we work we also pile up a lot of clutter and we procrastinate as long as we can until it gets too stressful and finally you have to get rid of it at any cost.\n \nBelow are some ways you can declutter your life\n \n1. Create your to-do list everyday\n \n\n \nMake a list of tasks to be done a night before everyday.\n \nThis is a great start for the day, you get your tasks for the day in the morning.\n \nArrange your tasks starting from the one most important to least important. This way you would have completed all your important tasks by the end of the day.\n \nIt is also a satisfying stress buster to cross out tasks from your to-do list.\n \n2. Maintain a cleaning schedule for your house and office desk\n \n\n \nIt doesn\’t need to be stressed how essential it is to keep your trash in trash and not somewhere else.\n \nKeeping our areas clean gives us mental peace and keeps away from the anxiety.\n \nCreate a schedule for cleaning and follow it. For example : You could clean your bedroom clutter on every Saturday\’s. You could clean your office mess every Tuesdays.\n \nYou could even try doing things on a daily basis to avoid one day pile ups later. For example – You could make the effort of throwing unwanted bills everyday you come back from grocery. You could throw unwanted paper prints right away. You could keep your desk clean by allowing only the most necessary item to display on it. See that\’s easy to start with.\n \n3. Start being a minimalist\n \n\n \nThis can actually create a huge difference in your life. The person who lives a good life even with the minimum resources fits to the defination of a minimalist. This is actually a trending topic this season.\n \nAll you have to do this is, stand in front of the place that you want to declutter, now you need to pick things that you can\’t survive without. Keep them aside. This is all you need in your place. Try and get rid of the leftover after this excercise.\n \nReducing the amount of items and products you use, provides a mental stability and relaxation. You have less things to worry about. It enables you to focus on work and other things which are more important.\n \nYou should definitely do this exercise for your wardrobe, work desk, study table and kitchen area, bathrooms, makeup rooms.\n \nThis will also teach you the art of letting go as we are so habitual to holding on things. Now that\’s a deep thought isn\’t it ?\n \n4. Move away from TOXIC people\n \n\n \nToxic people are nothing more than clutter in your life.\n \nStop wasting your time dealing with toxic people. Move away from them and that\’s the best for you.\n \nFocus your energy in spending time with like-minded people instead of dealing with the disturbances created by negative people.\n \nYou become what company you be with. So always keep positive people around who boost you towards your goals.\n \n5. Get rid of digital clutter \n\n \nWe live in a digitised world where we spend most of our time staring in our phones and screens.\n \nRemember the last time you had enough free storage for your photos and videos in your phone??\n \nExactly. It felt stress free and enabled you to capture your moments.\n \nThus, you must regularly clean your phone by deleting unwanted apps and taking regular backups to your pc to avoid full memory.\n \n6. Get rid of extra furniture around you\n \nThis is a uncommon one, probably because it\’s actually hard to get rid of your furniture already there for years.\n \nBut, do you know how much we get trapped between those rectangular boxes placed inside our enclosed square walls ??\n \nDo you remember the last time you went to a serene place?? A place where it was all green and open ??\n \n\n \nYou could feel the fresh air passing through your face, refreshed your mood, you could hear the birds sing, the leaves dance with the wind.\n \nThink of all the reasons why you felt what you felt at that moment.\n \nYou will realise that the human brain likes freedom, it likes open spaces, it likes to see as far it can see, it finds warmth in the lap of nature. It tunes with the rhythm of nature and brings the mind and soul at peace. It helps you brainstorm and makes you productive.\n \nSo imagine, how the body feels when it gets trapped between the house walls.\n \nMoreover if you fill your small room with furniture all around, your brain gets trapped. It cannot think and get to that level of peace. Everytime it wants to think something out of the box, it will only see another box in front of it. This is deep to understand for some, but if you do then make changes to your lifestyle today and you will see the difference.\n \nKeep your rooms with basic furniture needed. Don\’t add extra storage, reduce your clutter. Give up on clothes you don\’t wear, things you don\’t use, books you don\’t read etc. Add some plants to your room, green is always good for the eyes.\n \n\n \nLastly, below are a few plants for you to get started.\n \n\n \n\n \n\n \n\n \nreate a schedule for cleaning and follow it. For example : You could clean your bedroom clutter on every Saturday’s. You could clean your office mess every Tuesdays.
You could even try doing things on a daily basis to avoid one day pile ups later. For example – You could make the effort of throwing unwanted bills everyday you come back from grocery. You could throw unwanted paper prints right away. You could keep your desk clean by allowing only the most necessary item to display on it. See that’s easy to start with.
3. Start being a minimalist
This can actually create a huge difference in your life. The person who lives a good life even with the minimum resources fits to the defination of a minimalist. This is actually a trending topic this season.
All you have to do this is, stand in front of the place that you want to declutter, now you need to pick things that you can’t survive without. Keep them aside. This is all you need in your place. Try and get rid of the leftover after this excercise.
Reducing the amount of items and products you use, provides a mental stability and relaxation. You have less things to worry about. It enables you to focus on work and other things which are more important.
You should definitely do this exercise for your wardrobe, work desk, study table and kitchen area, bathrooms, makeup rooms.
This will also teach you the art of letting go as we are so habitual to holding on things. Now that’s a deep thought isn’t it ?
4. Move away from TOXIC people
Toxic people are nothing more than clutter in your life.
Stop wasting your time dealing with toxic people. Move away from them and that’s the best for you.
Focus your energy in spending time with like-minded people instead of dealing with the disturbances created by negative people.
You become what company you be with. So always keep positive people around who boost you towards your goals.
5. Get rid of digital clutter
We live in a digitised world where we spend most of our time staring in our phones and screens.
Remember the last time you had enough free storage for your photos and videos in your phone??
Exactly. It felt stress free and enabled you to capture your moments.
Thus, you must regularly clean your phone by deleting unwanted apps and taking regular backups to your pc to avoid full memory.
6. Get rid of extra furniture around you
This is a uncommon one, probably because it’s actually hard to get rid of your furniture already there for years.
But, do you know how much we get trapped between those rectangular boxes placed inside our enclosed square walls ??
Do you remember the last time you went to a serene place?? A place where it was all green and open ??
You could feel the fresh air passing through your face, refreshed your mood, you could hear the birds sing, the leaves dance with the wind.
Think of all the reasons why you felt what you felt at that moment.
You will realise that the human brain likes freedom, it likes open spaces, it likes to see as far it can see, it finds warmth in the lap of nature. It tunes with the rhythm of nature and brings the mind and soul at peace. It helps you brainstorm and makes you productive.
So imagine, how the body feels when it gets trapped between the house walls.
Moreover if you fill your small room with furniture all around, your brain gets trapped. It cannot think and get to that level of peace. Everytime it wants to think something out of the box, it will only see another box in front of it. This is deep to understand for some, but if you do then make changes to your lifestyle today and you will see the difference.
Keep your rooms with basic furniture needed. Don’t add extra storage, reduce your clutter. Give up on clothes you don’t wear, things you don’t use, books you don’t read etc. Add some plants to your room, green is always good for the eyes.
Lastly, below are a few plants for you to get started.
Do you have that smile??
Do you have that smile??
The one that touches the soul and imprints it with joy. That smile is contagious, it has the glitter in the eyes and gold in the heart.
It holds the power to mend the broken hearts
It holds the power to make you smile even when you don’t want to
It holds the power to change your mood even when you had a rough day,
It holds the power to turn the hearts from hard to soft
It holds the power to turn the frown to joy
It holds the power to turn the poverty of emotions to richness of emotions
It holds the power to change the rivalry to friendship
It holds the power to stop the tongue from uttering that hurtful word
It holds the power to cool down the anger and save from regret
It holds the power to love even when there is hate all around
It holds the power to show trust even when times are hard
Do you have that smile?
If this is your smile pass it on to someone today, it would make them smile too. If you are already smiling as you read this, share this with your loved ones.
If you have someone who smiles at you everyday, love them and respect them, hold on to them because they are special.
7 signs social media has got you addicted. Take the DIY LITMUS test for each sign today. Beware! Bitter truth ahead!!
Social media has become a integral part of our lives. It is like dal-chawal (Lentils-Rice) (Indian dish consumed daily) which we cannot live without.
What is social media? (This is not your exam, but am sure you won’t be able to define it, if i asked. Try it, if you don’t beleive. )
In simple terms, social media is any digital tool which helps you share content, helps you interact with other users. It enables you to create your content quickly and helps reach millions online with just one click.
Social media has changed the way humans communicate. Although there are abundant benefits of social media, humans are bound to waste things when they get them easily, free and without working hard for it.
While social media was primarily created for people to share good content, information, news, promote global interaction without even needing to be there, social media today has become a medium to judge people anonymously, create controversies, promote racism, spread filthy rumours about anyone and everyone. There are groups of such people who find it pleasurable to disrespect others. This is how it affects the good people out there who were there only for the primary purpose. They become victims to such acts and fall into low self esteem issues, depression and other health issues.
Below are 7 signs social media is affecting your health and getting you addicted.
1. Your phone follows you EVERYWHERE.
LITMUS TEST – Are you carrying your phone to the bathroom?
If you answered yes, you are in a really bad position. Just STOP. Do you know the amount of germs and bacteria you exposed your phone to?
These germs can transfer to your mouth and make you very ill. You can even make others ill by exposing them to you dirty phone.
Stop today if you have developed this habit. Life will not end while you are in the bathroom. Also it is essential to log off from the virtual world for sometime in the day atleast.
2. You are updating everything you do on social media.
Is it difficult for you to enjoy a moment without capturing it and showing it to the world??
You have forgotten to live in the moment. Here’s a small test for you.
LITMUS TEST : Spend a day without uploading anything on social media.
If you successfully did this, Kudos to you!! You are truly enjoying every moment of your life.
If you couldn’t get through the day, it is okay, try again. You will see a big difference in your day when it happens. Because true happiness is not in the virtual world, it’s in those little moments which you miss while uploading them online.
3. Are you constantly tagging your friends in MEME and passing comments and being part of what’s “trending” online?
There has always been this trend of tagging your friends, commenting on news, celebrities, any other people you don’t like. Jokes are good for a while, but there is a fine line between fun and disrespecting. Once line is crossed it can hurt sentiments.
This is what facilitates rumours, racism, online bullying, rivalry and other such issues.
LITMUS TEST : During this month have you been a part of any trend that involved passing hate comments to someone weather a celebrity or political leader or just anyone from your group?
If you answered yes, social media has got the best of you. Its good to have your voice, your opinion about something/someone. But there is no need to show your views by disrespecting someone, bullying someone online, using hate speech and spreading rumours.
This not only makes your mentality stoop to a lower level but also shows the world who you are. There is a reason why things “trend” online. It’s because all of them are doing it. There are good ones and bad ones. It’s your choice to make the world a better place or not.
If you answered no, you are doing good, be a good human before anything else. The world needs good people like you, we are already living in difficult times. Thank you !!
4. Withdrawn from family and friends
If you are having more social friends than real ones, you are living in a virtual world. A person who gets obsessed with social media, often spends his time and energy in it, which often leaves their closed ones feeling neglected.
LITMUS TEST – Has your family member or friend asked you to stop looking into your phone and listen to them first? Or pointed you out how they feel ignored while talking to you?
If yes, you need to make some lifestyle changes and give your loved ones the undivided attention they deserve.
If you answered no, then you really are a good listener and not trapped into social media.
5. Are you always struggling to get a perfect selfie, the perfect lighting, perfect pose, so you could upload online??
People today love to have that perfect selfie because they want to look their best in the pictures. They don’t want the world to see their acne, or the dark circles, or the scar, or the mole on their faces.
Thanks to the galaxy of applications specially designed for their users who want to edit their pictures and remove their imperfections.
LITMUS TEST – Are you applying filters and editing each of your photos to perfection before uploading them online??
If you answered yes, you need to think about the “why” of this question. Why do you want to be someone you are not?
If you answered no, kudos to you for being happy in your own skin and not following the crowd of the virtual world.
This point should make you realise how social media has affected your self-esteem, your mental health.
6. Are you constantly checking your phone just so you do not miss something?
Is it hard for you to stay even a minute without checking your notifications?? Do you know why?
The fear of losing out on something has got you. You fear of missing out on something that is in trend, or latest celebrity news, your friends wherabouts etc.
LITMUS TEST – Do you feel left out or falling behind the crowd if you are away from your phone for even an hour? You feel anxious about who must have texted you? Or how many likes your profile picture must have received? Or if whether people commented on your vlog or not ?
If you answered yes, this will definitely affect your mental health, because you are getting yourself worried, reduce focus and appetite. So learn to stay away from your phone and do something productive and creative for your peace of mind.
If you answered no, that’s good. Social media should not dictate your mood and life.
7. Are you comparing your life with others??
Since everybody is uploading their lives online, nothing is hidden. What they do, what they eat, how they live, what they earn, car they drive, where they spend, everything is available online these days.
Sometimes this leads to comparing ones lives with another. This is the worst thing you could do to yourself.
LITMUS TEST – In last 1 week did you compare your life with someone else and wished if you were in their place??
If you compare, you will always feel adequate, because you will compare someone’s strength with your weakness. If you compare strength with strength even then there will always be someone who is better than you. Understand? Comparison can cause low self-esteem, depression, resentment, jealously and envy towards people.
If you answered no, good for you. You are happy with your own life.
In the end, just realise that virtual world is virtual, no matter how many friends you get, or followers follow you, it can never replace the love and affection of your near and dear ones in real life.
Write your thoughts in the comment section below. Would love to hear your litmus test results and if you gave a thought of changing any habit.
Finding yourself in the chaos of this world…
The world today is such a place,
Chaos is what is left of today,
With every being struggling to live, we can no more rely on someone elses’s will
It’s hard to have your opinion in this world, but remember it’s the only thing you will not regret.
Most are those who will give you words of sympathy and say time will change everything and move on, rare are those who hold your hand and say I will be with you through this time.
Don’t lose yourself trying to meet everybody’s expectations, it is human nature to never be pleased.
Don’t lose yourself for someone who doesn’t respect your feelings, for that person will never know the sweetness of affection and empathy.
Don’t lose yourself for those who make you feel less capable, they don’t know what you were before you met them.
Dont lose yourself for those who blame you for the situation, they will not admit their role which led to it.
Don’t lose yourself for those who do not value your tears, they can sleep as you cry alone.
Don’t lose yourself for those who don’t make you feel as their priority in life, if they are not doing now, they never will.
Don’t lose yourself for those who do not encourage you to your goals, they are the ones who never had dreams.
Don’t lose yourself for those who think you are not strong, they are unaware of the struggles that made you strongest. They are unaware that you chose them to show your scars because of the love you have for them, you chose to show the side of you the world had never seen.
Find yourself, pull yourself out from the chaos. You can do it because you were always the strong one, don’t let others pull you down with them. There are always those rare people around you who will be happy to see your shine. Live for them.
Finally we are what choices we make for ourselves. Depend on noone for your well being and happiness. This is the best you can do for yourself in this chaotic world. Period.