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While you think about the things you don’t have.
There is someone who is being grateful for what they got.
While you count the sorrows in your life.
There is someone who is counting their blessings.
While you see the half cup empty.
There is someone who sees their half cup full.
While you wait for validation by the world.
There is someone who has no choice but to beleive in themselves.
The day you realise
You own your life and life doesn’t own you,
Will be the day when you know that you are capable of much more than the world told you.
The day you realise
You love yourself the best than anyone else who says they love you,
Will be the day when you start doing more good to yourself than anyone else did to you.
The day you realise
You have something which others can only dream of at night,
Will be the day when you start living each moment to the fullest and start becoming your own light.
We are living in stressful times. Look around you, almost every little thing has got the potential to mess up with your mind. Sounds familiar right?
Right, almost every person around you is able to get on your nerves and cause disruption to your peaceful mind. Why?
Perhaps, because that’s how this age is and you can’t change that. When things go your way it feels good and pleasant, but when they don’t it starts giving you a hard time.
It can take hours of explanation to bring someone else to the same page as you. It can take repeated calls, messages, emails to get your work done by third parties. It can take your whole energy managing your chores and kids throughout the day.
It’s difficult to be patient and keep the same smiling face all day for the people around you. But there are ways you can reduce stress and relax yourself.
Below are some highly effective Stress buster techniques for quick relief.
1. Grab an ice tea, lemonade or a green tea.
When you are stressed, you likely get yourself dehydrated. Grabbing a lemonade gets you refreshed and hydrated. Also lemonade contains vitamin C which can help with low blood pressure, digestion, skin aging problems as well. This is a delicious way of busting your stress out.
If you don’t like lemonade, grab an ice tea. Ice tea will boost you with antioxidants and suprising amount of manganese. Manganese is essential for maintaing strength in your bones and promotes wound healing.
Now, if you are not a cool beverage person and you only feel relaxed with hot beverages, you can make a quick green tea for yourself and reap its benefits.
Green tea contains natural oxidant catechin named EGCG (Epigallocatechin-3-gallate) which is known to prevent cell damage.
Green tea is not only refreshing but also but prevents you from certain types of cancer.
2. Just swing it !! Meditate in aesthetic enviornment.
Nature has the power to soothe the mind and body. Research says the color green has a soothing effect to the eyes. The human eye can relieve strain while it sees green.
If your enviornment is green, all you have to do is find a place to relax.
Grab your bean bags or put a swing in your balcony and relax. Watch the plants and trees, close your eyes and hear the sounds of the leaves and wind.
If you notice, the focus of modern interiors has shifted to making greenery spaces in the house and workplaces. People have developed a keen interest in having kitchen gardens, houseplants, terrace gardens. You can even find plants in the bedroom, living rooms believed to purify the air and a means to stay close to nature. So if you don’t already have it you can easily create it in your home. This is a great stress buster of all time.
3. Get a good sleep for an hour or two.
Not to mention, we all know the importance of sleep. So if you are feeling stressed and nothing works, draw your curtains, set your room to dark and get a good 1-2 hour of sleep.
Sleeping relaxes your muscles, you can finally stop thinking about whatever you were thinking the whole day atleast for an hour or so and get instant stress relief.
4. Take a shower/bath
As we are talking about instant remedies, this is one of the best ways to de-stress yourself quickly.
A survey of 80 people was conducted by Neil Morris, a known psychologist. He concluded that “..baths give you a wonderful combination of isolation, quiet and comfort…”
5. Relive an old memory
If you have your family album, childhood album, or wedding album, just sit back on the couch and start turning the pages.
As your brain goes back to the memory lane, it will also produce some happy harmones while you smile remembering those memories.
6. Talk to someone who can make you laugh
This one could be hard, but still doable if you have such people in your life. You should already feel blessed.
7. Excercise. Do the Jumping jacks
Let me make this easy for you. If you are not a regular workout person but you still want to try this remedy, just start with the jumping jacks.
Doing this simple excercise will instantly produce endorphins in your brain. Endorphins are chemicals that help relive pain and stress in the body. They promote positive feelings in the body and get you in a state of euphoria.
If you don’t like the jumping jacks, you can get started with yoga. See? No excuse for feeling better.
Start with simple yoga postures and deep breathing exercises.
Bottom line is
There are both short term and long term stress relief techniques. Above mentioned techniques will provide you quick relief.
Remember, stress will not get you any solution. It will only cloud your judgements and productivity.
Try to take things easy, give yourself the time it needs after a rough day at work. Be around positive people, do positive things that promote happy harmones, read my blogs and you are good to go. See? It’s that easy.
The man down the lane once asked who I am?
People said he was selfish, only cared about himself. The man was considerate but it wasn’t always noticed.
People said he was insensitive, dint show emotions. The man always struggled to express his bottled up emotions.
People said he was racist, supported only his kind. The man was a victim of racism and hatred and chose to support his kind so they don’t feel humiliated like he did.
People said he was a coward, did not support feminism. The man was once thrown into jail for false accusations by a woman.
People said he was unlucky for love, nobody liked him. The man once trusted someone and gave his heart, only to be broken by betrayal.
People said he never tried enough. The man was exhausted trying every possible way and it dint work.
People said he was a depressed man, trying to end his life. The man was only struggling to find his place in the society which was so judgemental and sharp as a knife.
The most misunderstood emotion
When someone is silent they are not always angry, they are deeply Hurt
When someone is silent they are not arrogant, they chose to be humble by letting go and moving on
When someone is silent they are not disrespectful, they chose to respect you by not hurting you back
When someone is silent, you cannot hear them cry, their heart is learning to hold it inside
When someone is silent they are not hating you, they are loving you without showing it
When someone is silent they are not weak, they are one of the strongest people you ever met
When someone is silent they are not guilty, they don’t feel the need to prove their innocence to you
When someone is silent they do not despair, they hold the rope of hope for a better day
When someone is silent it is not a reaction, it is a thoughtful response.
Silence is not shallow, it is deep and rarely people understand it.
The girl in the woods
The girl in the woods lived far alone, escaped from the world where she had grown.
She was strong, fearless and kind, perhaps her past made her a beautiful mind.
She learnt finding happiness in others would only make her more sad, so she did things that made her glad.
She learnt losing your loved one was most painful of all the wounds, but life and death had to play their own tune.
She believed every struggle she goes through would make her stronger, the storm shall pass and won’t take any longer.
The girl in the woods would stare at the stars, the moon and the dark sky, escaping the world was definitely a good buy.
Do you have that smile??
The one that touches the soul and imprints it with joy. That smile is contagious, it has the glitter in the eyes and gold in the heart.
It holds the power to mend the broken hearts
It holds the power to make you smile even when you don’t want to
It holds the power to change your mood even when you had a rough day,
It holds the power to turn the hearts from hard to soft
It holds the power to turn the frown to joy
It holds the power to turn the poverty of emotions to richness of emotions
It holds the power to change the rivalry to friendship
It holds the power to stop the tongue from uttering that hurtful word
It holds the power to cool down the anger and save from regret
It holds the power to love even when there is hate all around
It holds the power to show trust even when times are hard
Do you have that smile?
If this is your smile pass it on to someone today, it would make them smile too. If you are already smiling as you read this, share this with your loved ones.
If you have someone who smiles at you everyday, love them and respect them, hold on to them because they are special.
Social media has become a integral part of our lives. It is like dal-chawal (Lentils-Rice) (Indian dish consumed daily) which we cannot live without.
What is social media? (This is not your exam, but am sure you won’t be able to define it, if i asked. Try it, if you don’t beleive. )
In simple terms, social media is any digital tool which helps you share content, helps you interact with other users. It enables you to create your content quickly and helps reach millions online with just one click.
Social media has changed the way humans communicate. Although there are abundant benefits of social media, humans are bound to waste things when they get them easily, free and without working hard for it.
While social media was primarily created for people to share good content, information, news, promote global interaction without even needing to be there, social media today has become a medium to judge people anonymously, create controversies, promote racism, spread filthy rumours about anyone and everyone. There are groups of such people who find it pleasurable to disrespect others. This is how it affects the good people out there who were there only for the primary purpose. They become victims to such acts and fall into low self esteem issues, depression and other health issues.
Below are 7 signs social media is affecting your health and getting you addicted.
1. Your phone follows you EVERYWHERE.
LITMUS TEST – Are you carrying your phone to the bathroom?
If you answered yes, you are in a really bad position. Just STOP. Do you know the amount of germs and bacteria you exposed your phone to?
These germs can transfer to your mouth and make you very ill. You can even make others ill by exposing them to you dirty phone.
Stop today if you have developed this habit. Life will not end while you are in the bathroom. Also it is essential to log off from the virtual world for sometime in the day atleast.
2. You are updating everything you do on social media.
Is it difficult for you to enjoy a moment without capturing it and showing it to the world??
You have forgotten to live in the moment. Here’s a small test for you.
LITMUS TEST : Spend a day without uploading anything on social media.
If you successfully did this, Kudos to you!! You are truly enjoying every moment of your life.
If you couldn’t get through the day, it is okay, try again. You will see a big difference in your day when it happens. Because true happiness is not in the virtual world, it’s in those little moments which you miss while uploading them online.
3. Are you constantly tagging your friends in MEME and passing comments and being part of what’s “trending” online?
There has always been this trend of tagging your friends, commenting on news, celebrities, any other people you don’t like. Jokes are good for a while, but there is a fine line between fun and disrespecting. Once line is crossed it can hurt sentiments.
This is what facilitates rumours, racism, online bullying, rivalry and other such issues.
LITMUS TEST : During this month have you been a part of any trend that involved passing hate comments to someone weather a celebrity or political leader or just anyone from your group?
If you answered yes, social media has got the best of you. Its good to have your voice, your opinion about something/someone. But there is no need to show your views by disrespecting someone, bullying someone online, using hate speech and spreading rumours.
This not only makes your mentality stoop to a lower level but also shows the world who you are. There is a reason why things “trend” online. It’s because all of them are doing it. There are good ones and bad ones. It’s your choice to make the world a better place or not.
If you answered no, you are doing good, be a good human before anything else. The world needs good people like you, we are already living in difficult times. Thank you !!
4. Withdrawn from family and friends
If you are having more social friends than real ones, you are living in a virtual world. A person who gets obsessed with social media, often spends his time and energy in it, which often leaves their closed ones feeling neglected.
LITMUS TEST – Has your family member or friend asked you to stop looking into your phone and listen to them first? Or pointed you out how they feel ignored while talking to you?
If yes, you need to make some lifestyle changes and give your loved ones the undivided attention they deserve.
If you answered no, then you really are a good listener and not trapped into social media.
5. Are you always struggling to get a perfect selfie, the perfect lighting, perfect pose, so you could upload online??
People today love to have that perfect selfie because they want to look their best in the pictures. They don’t want the world to see their acne, or the dark circles, or the scar, or the mole on their faces.
Thanks to the galaxy of applications specially designed for their users who want to edit their pictures and remove their imperfections.
LITMUS TEST – Are you applying filters and editing each of your photos to perfection before uploading them online??
If you answered yes, you need to think about the “why” of this question. Why do you want to be someone you are not?
If you answered no, kudos to you for being happy in your own skin and not following the crowd of the virtual world.
This point should make you realise how social media has affected your self-esteem, your mental health.
6. Are you constantly checking your phone just so you do not miss something?
Is it hard for you to stay even a minute without checking your notifications?? Do you know why?
The fear of losing out on something has got you. You fear of missing out on something that is in trend, or latest celebrity news, your friends wherabouts etc.
LITMUS TEST – Do you feel left out or falling behind the crowd if you are away from your phone for even an hour? You feel anxious about who must have texted you? Or how many likes your profile picture must have received? Or if whether people commented on your vlog or not ?
If you answered yes, this will definitely affect your mental health, because you are getting yourself worried, reduce focus and appetite. So learn to stay away from your phone and do something productive and creative for your peace of mind.
If you answered no, that’s good. Social media should not dictate your mood and life.
7. Are you comparing your life with others??
Since everybody is uploading their lives online, nothing is hidden. What they do, what they eat, how they live, what they earn, car they drive, where they spend, everything is available online these days.
Sometimes this leads to comparing ones lives with another. This is the worst thing you could do to yourself.
LITMUS TEST – In last 1 week did you compare your life with someone else and wished if you were in their place??
If you compare, you will always feel adequate, because you will compare someone’s strength with your weakness. If you compare strength with strength even then there will always be someone who is better than you. Understand? Comparison can cause low self-esteem, depression, resentment, jealously and envy towards people.
If you answered no, good for you. You are happy with your own life.
In the end, just realise that virtual world is virtual, no matter how many friends you get, or followers follow you, it can never replace the love and affection of your near and dear ones in real life.
Write your thoughts in the comment section below. Would love to hear your litmus test results and if you gave a thought of changing any habit.
Are you guilty of comparing your loved ones or yourself to someone around you??
Did you grow up being always told to be like your siblings, or some random kid in the class or in your parent’s friend circle ? Is this sounding common to you??
This is the root cause of comparision, it all starts from childhood and the cycle continues, the same kid grows up being compared all his life and then does the same with his own kids too and this vicious cycle continues.
Now, what’s wrong with comparision? Aren’t you encouraging your child or friend or lover to be better by showing how others are doing it??
NO, YOU ARE PREPARING THEM FOR LOW SELF ESTEEM ISSUES WHICH WILL EVENTUALLY PUT THEM INTO DEPRESSION.
This not only happens to kids, but with adults too who once happened to be strong individuals who then lost themselves in this chaotic world.
WHAT YOU CAN DO TO ENCOURAGE SOMEONE FOR THEIR BETTERMENT??
1. CELEBRATE THEIR INDIVIDUALITY. You need to understand human nature, every human has a set of skills, a temperament, their level of understanding which is unique from another human. This is FACT. Don’t try to alter and don’t try to make someone what they can’t be. Be at peace with their identity.
2. SUGGEST THEM, DONT FORCE. You know people become defensive when something is forced on them. Be it rituals, behaviours, rigid rules, culture norms etc. Ever faced anger moments when you stopped your friend from drinking? Or from husband/wife when you stopped them from behaving a certain way? Or from a kid whom you stopped for throwing tantrums?
3. APPRECIATE THEIR STRENGTHS The times we live in, it is hard for people to appreciate even their loved ones, hardwork goes unnoticed, small love gestures go unnoticed. Why? Wives are not appreciated by husbands for the work they put because it’s considered a obligation and vice versa. Kids are not appreciated by parents for scoring average marks because he was expected to get first-class. Couples don’t appreciate their elderly parents who brought them up for all the years. Friends don’t appreciate each other who go out of the way to make them feel special because some other friend did a bigger and even better act for them. Why? Why have people become so harsh to each other? Relax, it’s time to appreciate the little things in life, focus on people’s strengths, ignore their weaknesses because we all have in us.
4. DONT TALK, COMMUNICATE AT DEEPER LEVELS. Most of the people don’t know the difference between talking and holding a meaningful conversation. In this technology trapped world it is very easy to avoid much communication with anyone. This is a major cause which changes people’s behaviour towards their loved ones. Are you guilty of making someone feel lonely in a relationship? You definitely owe an apology. When was the last time you interacted with your loved one without any gadgets around, away from your screen. It is common to see one person talking, and the other one replying while using their smart screens. This often leaves the other person feeling neglected and less valued. If you are serious about your relation, make an effort to listen to them, come up with solutions, comfort them with your warmth, don’t brush of their worries just because you feel they are vague and not a big deal. Show empathy and affection, if they share it with you, it took a lot of courage to even speak about it. So don’t judge anybody for anything, you don’t have that right.
Everyone deserves to be treated best, don’t judge people or compare people.
When you compare each other, you don’t know the damage you are doing to their mental health, the person eventually will lose himself trying to meet those expectations and fall into depression which can even cost their life. This is a serious issue, respect each other for who they are. Follow positive constructiveness in relations and most important do it together, hand in hand. That’s when life will become meaningful.