Happiness is a choice you can make everyday View More
While you think about the things you don’t have.
There is someone who is being grateful for what they got.
While you count the sorrows in your life.
There is someone who is counting their blessings.
While you see the half cup empty.
There is someone who sees their half cup full.
While you wait for validation by the world.
There is someone who has no choice but to beleive in themselves.
The day you realise
You own your life and life doesn’t own you,
Will be the day when you know that you are capable of much more than the world told you.
The day you realise
You love yourself the best than anyone else who says they love you,
Will be the day when you start doing more good to yourself than anyone else did to you.
The day you realise
You have something which others can only dream of at night,
Will be the day when you start living each moment to the fullest and start becoming your own light.
What is better than a friend who betrays you ? An enemy. Right
But does an enemy really exist? Is it true that you can have enemy and friends.
Think again. When you think deeply you will realise the one you calling your enemy was once a friend to you. You cannot have a stranger as your enemy right. It’s a known person and enemy is a strong word to use for someone.
So a friend who betrays you has qualified to be an enemy in your mind.
It’s all in your mind. The definitions of friends and enemies are generated in the minds, it dominates your behaviour towards them. These definations are different from person to person because two people cannot think exactly the same. They process the information differently and attain different perspectives about the situation.
What we want to focus today is have you termed your good friend to be in your enemy category? It’s a trend these days. Surely you wouldn’t be using the word “enemy” to refer them. But you treat them exactly the same way.
You would block them on social media. Ignore their calls, distant yourself from them. Blame them for whatever happened to you. Make them feel guilty of their actions. Give them the silent treatment indefinitely.
Sounds familiar right? You must be justifying yourself by saying they deserve it because they did the injustice to you. But deep in your heart you know you love them so much and want everything to be like before.
Well this dilemma, it’s your inner voice, your gut. Just listen to it. If you get this feeling for someone then you are right, it’s time to let go and get them back to you.
Think about the reason what they did to you. I am by your side if they really violated your soul and compromised your self respect and dignity. Then it’s better to keep them away from your life.
But if they dint do something harsh, or they did something with the right intention thinking of your betterment then you might have been wrong about them.
A friend that says bitter truths to you on your face is truly your friend not your enemy. Don’t abandon them. You may not find such people nowadays as they are so rare. People who deeply care about you, who can’t stand something wrong being done by others to you. They see right through the faces of people who wish to hurt you. But you don’t beleive them and put them aside. The future generations will not feel friendships like we do. You are lucky to have even a single friend in your life.
Life is too short to be unhappy with your closed ones. Don’t give up the many good moments you had and can have for the one bad one. All relations go through ups and downs and it’s okay. It’s okay to be angry, sad, disappointed. But don’t let it get the better of you.
“Bounce back like a boomerang and you are good to go
A friend that stabs you in front is better than the back who stabs you from back. “
Have you been in an relationship?
For most of you it’s a yes. And the rest will eventually be.
What is the most important thing that keeps you together? You would say love, trust, loyalty etc.
That’s correct, it is what keeps you together indeed.
Now, what is the most dangerous thing that can break your relationship?
You would say betrayal, insecurity, obsession etc.
That’s correct, it is what breaks your relationships. But there is one more important aspect which you do not see.
That is “time”. Are you giving enough time to your relationship?
As fast the days pass by, we want everything instantly. Instant food, instant results, instant happiness, instant rewards, instant relationships. Just Instant EVERYTHING.
Anything that is not instant becomes Old School. Correct?
Well, honestly old school will always be the best no matter what time frame you switch to. You know why?
That’s because old school was the foundation of things that was turned to instant.
Just remember, anything that you get instantly in relationships will always be temporary. True relationships need time, effort, communication, dedication and a lot of nurturing from both the sides. A relationship cannot thrive on expensive gifts, luxury dates or text messages.
Take time to make that one phone call instead of texting to check on them. Take time to understand their interests instead of browsing their Facebook profiles. Take time to dwell in their world and see the world through their eyes.
Instead of plucking them from their world for yours, let them blossom where they are.-JoyfulSolitude
What is the most important thing for you in a relationship ? Do comment below to share your experience.
We are living in stressful times. Look around you, almost every little thing has got the potential to mess up with your mind. Sounds familiar right?
Right, almost every person around you is able to get on your nerves and cause disruption to your peaceful mind. Why?
Perhaps, because that’s how this age is and you can’t change that. When things go your way it feels good and pleasant, but when they don’t it starts giving you a hard time.
It can take hours of explanation to bring someone else to the same page as you. It can take repeated calls, messages, emails to get your work done by third parties. It can take your whole energy managing your chores and kids throughout the day.
It’s difficult to be patient and keep the same smiling face all day for the people around you. But there are ways you can reduce stress and relax yourself.
Below are some highly effective Stress buster techniques for quick relief.
1. Grab an ice tea, lemonade or a green tea.
When you are stressed, you likely get yourself dehydrated. Grabbing a lemonade gets you refreshed and hydrated. Also lemonade contains vitamin C which can help with low blood pressure, digestion, skin aging problems as well. This is a delicious way of busting your stress out.
If you don’t like lemonade, grab an ice tea. Ice tea will boost you with antioxidants and suprising amount of manganese. Manganese is essential for maintaing strength in your bones and promotes wound healing.
Now, if you are not a cool beverage person and you only feel relaxed with hot beverages, you can make a quick green tea for yourself and reap its benefits.
Green tea contains natural oxidant catechin named EGCG (Epigallocatechin-3-gallate) which is known to prevent cell damage.
Green tea is not only refreshing but also but prevents you from certain types of cancer.
2. Just swing it !! Meditate in aesthetic enviornment.
Nature has the power to soothe the mind and body. Research says the color green has a soothing effect to the eyes. The human eye can relieve strain while it sees green.
If your enviornment is green, all you have to do is find a place to relax.
Grab your bean bags or put a swing in your balcony and relax. Watch the plants and trees, close your eyes and hear the sounds of the leaves and wind.
If you notice, the focus of modern interiors has shifted to making greenery spaces in the house and workplaces. People have developed a keen interest in having kitchen gardens, houseplants, terrace gardens. You can even find plants in the bedroom, living rooms believed to purify the air and a means to stay close to nature. So if you don’t already have it you can easily create it in your home. This is a great stress buster of all time.
3. Get a good sleep for an hour or two.
Not to mention, we all know the importance of sleep. So if you are feeling stressed and nothing works, draw your curtains, set your room to dark and get a good 1-2 hour of sleep.
Sleeping relaxes your muscles, you can finally stop thinking about whatever you were thinking the whole day atleast for an hour or so and get instant stress relief.
4. Take a shower/bath
As we are talking about instant remedies, this is one of the best ways to de-stress yourself quickly.
A survey of 80 people was conducted by Neil Morris, a known psychologist. He concluded that “..baths give you a wonderful combination of isolation, quiet and comfort…”
5. Relive an old memory
If you have your family album, childhood album, or wedding album, just sit back on the couch and start turning the pages.
As your brain goes back to the memory lane, it will also produce some happy harmones while you smile remembering those memories.
6. Talk to someone who can make you laugh
This one could be hard, but still doable if you have such people in your life. You should already feel blessed.
7. Excercise. Do the Jumping jacks
Let me make this easy for you. If you are not a regular workout person but you still want to try this remedy, just start with the jumping jacks.
Doing this simple excercise will instantly produce endorphins in your brain. Endorphins are chemicals that help relive pain and stress in the body. They promote positive feelings in the body and get you in a state of euphoria.
If you don’t like the jumping jacks, you can get started with yoga. See? No excuse for feeling better.
Start with simple yoga postures and deep breathing exercises.
Bottom line is
There are both short term and long term stress relief techniques. Above mentioned techniques will provide you quick relief.
Remember, stress will not get you any solution. It will only cloud your judgements and productivity.
Try to take things easy, give yourself the time it needs after a rough day at work. Be around positive people, do positive things that promote happy harmones, read my blogs and you are good to go. See? It’s that easy.
The man down the lane once asked who I am?
People said he was selfish, only cared about himself. The man was considerate but it wasn’t always noticed.
People said he was insensitive, dint show emotions. The man always struggled to express his bottled up emotions.
People said he was racist, supported only his kind. The man was a victim of racism and hatred and chose to support his kind so they don’t feel humiliated like he did.
People said he was a coward, did not support feminism. The man was once thrown into jail for false accusations by a woman.
People said he was unlucky for love, nobody liked him. The man once trusted someone and gave his heart, only to be broken by betrayal.
People said he never tried enough. The man was exhausted trying every possible way and it dint work.
People said he was a depressed man, trying to end his life. The man was only struggling to find his place in the society which was so judgemental and sharp as a knife.
The most misunderstood emotion
When someone is silent they are not always angry, they are deeply Hurt
When someone is silent they are not arrogant, they chose to be humble by letting go and moving on
When someone is silent they are not disrespectful, they chose to respect you by not hurting you back
When someone is silent, you cannot hear them cry, their heart is learning to hold it inside
When someone is silent they are not hating you, they are loving you without showing it
When someone is silent they are not weak, they are one of the strongest people you ever met
When someone is silent they are not guilty, they don’t feel the need to prove their innocence to you
When someone is silent they do not despair, they hold the rope of hope for a better day
When someone is silent it is not a reaction, it is a thoughtful response.
Silence is not shallow, it is deep and rarely people understand it.
These days we all are so occupied with work and chores, it takes up all of our time and energy.
As we work we also pile up a lot of clutter and we procrastinate as long as we can until it gets too stressful and finally you have to get rid of it at any cost.
Below are some ways you can declutter your life
1. Create your to-do list everyday
Make a list of tasks to be done a night before everyday.
This is a great start for the day, you get your tasks for the day in the morning.
Arrange your tasks starting from the one most important to least important. This way you would have completed all your important tasks by the end of the day.
It is also a satisfying stress buster to cross out tasks from your to-do list.
2. Maintain a cleaning schedule for your house and office desk
It doesn’t need to be stressed how essential it is to keep your trash in trash and not somewhere else.
Keeping our areas clean gives us mental peace and keeps away from the anxiety.
C￼\nThese days we all are so occupied with work and chores, it takes up all of our time and energy.\n \nAs we work we also pile up a lot of clutter and we procrastinate as long as we can until it gets too stressful and finally you have to get rid of it at any cost.\n \nBelow are some ways you can declutter your life\n \n1. Create your to-do list everyday\n \n￼\n \nMake a list of tasks to be done a night before everyday.\n \nThis is a great start for the day, you get your tasks for the day in the morning.\n \nArrange your tasks starting from the one most important to least important. This way you would have completed all your important tasks by the end of the day.\n \nIt is also a satisfying stress buster to cross out tasks from your to-do list.\n \n2. Maintain a cleaning schedule for your house and office desk\n \n￼\n \nIt doesn\’t need to be stressed how essential it is to keep your trash in trash and not somewhere else.\n \nKeeping our areas clean gives us mental peace and keeps away from the anxiety.\n \nCreate a schedule for cleaning and follow it. For example : You could clean your bedroom clutter on every Saturday\’s. You could clean your office mess every Tuesdays.\n \nYou could even try doing things on a daily basis to avoid one day pile ups later. For example – You could make the effort of throwing unwanted bills everyday you come back from grocery. You could throw unwanted paper prints right away. You could keep your desk clean by allowing only the most necessary item to display on it. See that\’s easy to start with.\n \n3. Start being a minimalist\n \n￼\n \nThis can actually create a huge difference in your life. The person who lives a good life even with the minimum resources fits to the defination of a minimalist. This is actually a trending topic this season.\n \nAll you have to do this is, stand in front of the place that you want to declutter, now you need to pick things that you can\’t survive without. Keep them aside. This is all you need in your place. Try and get rid of the leftover after this excercise.\n \nReducing the amount of items and products you use, provides a mental stability and relaxation. You have less things to worry about. It enables you to focus on work and other things which are more important.\n \nYou should definitely do this exercise for your wardrobe, work desk, study table and kitchen area, bathrooms, makeup rooms.\n \nThis will also teach you the art of letting go as we are so habitual to holding on things. Now that\’s a deep thought isn\’t it ?\n \n4. Move away from TOXIC people\n \n￼\n \nToxic people are nothing more than clutter in your life.\n \nStop wasting your time dealing with toxic people. Move away from them and that\’s the best for you.\n \nFocus your energy in spending time with like-minded people instead of dealing with the disturbances created by negative people.\n \nYou become what company you be with. So always keep positive people around who boost you towards your goals.\n \n5. Get rid of digital clutter \n￼\n \nWe live in a digitised world where we spend most of our time staring in our phones and screens.\n \nRemember the last time you had enough free storage for your photos and videos in your phone??\n \nExactly. It felt stress free and enabled you to capture your moments.\n \nThus, you must regularly clean your phone by deleting unwanted apps and taking regular backups to your pc to avoid full memory.\n \n6. Get rid of extra furniture around you\n \nThis is a uncommon one, probably because it\’s actually hard to get rid of your furniture already there for years.\n \nBut, do you know how much we get trapped between those rectangular boxes placed inside our enclosed square walls ??\n \nDo you remember the last time you went to a serene place?? A place where it was all green and open ??\n \n￼\n \nYou could feel the fresh air passing through your face, refreshed your mood, you could hear the birds sing, the leaves dance with the wind.\n \nThink of all the reasons why you felt what you felt at that moment.\n \nYou will realise that the human brain likes freedom, it likes open spaces, it likes to see as far it can see, it finds warmth in the lap of nature. It tunes with the rhythm of nature and brings the mind and soul at peace. It helps you brainstorm and makes you productive.\n \nSo imagine, how the body feels when it gets trapped between the house walls.\n \nMoreover if you fill your small room with furniture all around, your brain gets trapped. It cannot think and get to that level of peace. Everytime it wants to think something out of the box, it will only see another box in front of it. This is deep to understand for some, but if you do then make changes to your lifestyle today and you will see the difference.\n \nKeep your rooms with basic furniture needed. Don\’t add extra storage, reduce your clutter. Give up on clothes you don\’t wear, things you don\’t use, books you don\’t read etc. Add some plants to your room, green is always good for the eyes.\n \n￼\n \nLastly, below are a few plants for you to get started.\n \n￼\n \n\n \n\n \n\n \nreate a schedule for cleaning and follow it. For example : You could clean your bedroom clutter on every Saturday’s. You could clean your office mess every Tuesdays.
You could even try doing things on a daily basis to avoid one day pile ups later. For example – You could make the effort of throwing unwanted bills everyday you come back from grocery. You could throw unwanted paper prints right away. You could keep your desk clean by allowing only the most necessary item to display on it. See that’s easy to start with.
3. Start being a minimalist
This can actually create a huge difference in your life. The person who lives a good life even with the minimum resources fits to the defination of a minimalist. This is actually a trending topic this season.
All you have to do this is, stand in front of the place that you want to declutter, now you need to pick things that you can’t survive without. Keep them aside. This is all you need in your place. Try and get rid of the leftover after this excercise.
Reducing the amount of items and products you use, provides a mental stability and relaxation. You have less things to worry about. It enables you to focus on work and other things which are more important.
You should definitely do this exercise for your wardrobe, work desk, study table and kitchen area, bathrooms, makeup rooms.
This will also teach you the art of letting go as we are so habitual to holding on things. Now that’s a deep thought isn’t it ?
4. Move away from TOXIC people
Toxic people are nothing more than clutter in your life.
Stop wasting your time dealing with toxic people. Move away from them and that’s the best for you.
Focus your energy in spending time with like-minded people instead of dealing with the disturbances created by negative people.
You become what company you be with. So always keep positive people around who boost you towards your goals.
5. Get rid of digital clutter
We live in a digitised world where we spend most of our time staring in our phones and screens.
Remember the last time you had enough free storage for your photos and videos in your phone??
Exactly. It felt stress free and enabled you to capture your moments.
Thus, you must regularly clean your phone by deleting unwanted apps and taking regular backups to your pc to avoid full memory.
6. Get rid of extra furniture around you
This is a uncommon one, probably because it’s actually hard to get rid of your furniture already there for years.
But, do you know how much we get trapped between those rectangular boxes placed inside our enclosed square walls ??
Do you remember the last time you went to a serene place?? A place where it was all green and open ??
You could feel the fresh air passing through your face, refreshed your mood, you could hear the birds sing, the leaves dance with the wind.
Think of all the reasons why you felt what you felt at that moment.
You will realise that the human brain likes freedom, it likes open spaces, it likes to see as far it can see, it finds warmth in the lap of nature. It tunes with the rhythm of nature and brings the mind and soul at peace. It helps you brainstorm and makes you productive.
So imagine, how the body feels when it gets trapped between the house walls.
Moreover if you fill your small room with furniture all around, your brain gets trapped. It cannot think and get to that level of peace. Everytime it wants to think something out of the box, it will only see another box in front of it. This is deep to understand for some, but if you do then make changes to your lifestyle today and you will see the difference.
Keep your rooms with basic furniture needed. Don’t add extra storage, reduce your clutter. Give up on clothes you don’t wear, things you don’t use, books you don’t read etc. Add some plants to your room, green is always good for the eyes.
Lastly, below are a few plants for you to get started.
Do you have that smile??
The one that touches the soul and imprints it with joy. That smile is contagious, it has the glitter in the eyes and gold in the heart.
It holds the power to mend the broken hearts
It holds the power to make you smile even when you don’t want to
It holds the power to change your mood even when you had a rough day,
It holds the power to turn the hearts from hard to soft
It holds the power to turn the frown to joy
It holds the power to turn the poverty of emotions to richness of emotions
It holds the power to change the rivalry to friendship
It holds the power to stop the tongue from uttering that hurtful word
It holds the power to cool down the anger and save from regret
It holds the power to love even when there is hate all around
It holds the power to show trust even when times are hard
Do you have that smile?
If this is your smile pass it on to someone today, it would make them smile too. If you are already smiling as you read this, share this with your loved ones.
If you have someone who smiles at you everyday, love them and respect them, hold on to them because they are special.
In this busy world, we forget to take care of our loved ones, more often because we know they will always be there.
This happens a lot with couples today who love each other so much but with the busy schedules are left with little or no time for each other at the end of the day.
So what should you do if this is your story??
Treat a healthy relationship like a recipe and you will get it right. Below is a list of these essential ingredients for your recipe.
1. Make time for each other.
This is the most obvious one but also the one that we mostly fail to fulfill.
Making time for each other on a daily basis makes your relationship stronger and happier.
Don’t exhaust yourself at work by overtime, unless necessary. This will save you energy and time for him/her.
2. Make them feel special
This is very common one but seldom misunderstood. Making your loved one feel special doesn’t mean taking them on a holiday, or a high rated restaurant every time.
You can make them feel special by doing simple things like bringing them their favourite snack with a special note, or you can order a gift online named to them and surprise them. You can also cross out something on their wish list. (You need to know their heart for this one) Be creative. Plan date nights if you haven’t done before. Plan workout sessions together if you enjoy, or a candle night on the terrace. Bake or cook something for them as a surprise.
You should make your partner feel special regularly. This shows them how much they are important to you and that you care for their happiness.
3. Remember important dates.
This one is always hard for men but the ones who do it hold a special place in their partner’s heart.
Be it birthdays, anniversaries, or the first time you met. Remember these and you are good to go.
4. Compliment each other everyday
This one might seem hard to some, but do it. It makes a huge difference when you nourish someone with compliments.
Tell them how beautiful/handsome they look today. (You can use this one everyday) (see it’s easy)
Tell them you like what they did to their hair, or the new dress or the new beard style. This shows that you took time to notice even the small details about them.
This will surely put a smile on their face even on a not so happy day.
5. Trust and respect their decisions, don’t override them all the time.
A relationship is healthy when both respect each other’s choices.
You should understand that sometimes things may not happen the way you want them to. So be at peace, don’t force your decisions on the other one. Trust their decisions the way they trust yours.
6. Turn off your distractions
This one is a life-saving one, turn off your social media when you are with them. It can adversely affect your relationship when your partner is talking to you and you are busy scrolling your phone for updates.
This often makes one partner feel neglected and frustrated always. Know More…
7. Always respect them and appreciate them in front of others.
Don’t ever show their faults to others and make them feel low, always keep up their respect and hide their faults. You can always bring up the matter for discussion in private.
Appreciation is always appreciated by your partner ❤️
Always talk the best about them in front of others, even if it is their or your friends or family. Appreciate their good qualities and don’t make fun of their mistakes along with others. It could be hurtful if you do so.
8. Protect them like a nut in the shell.
If you are in a relationship, your partner is your responsibility. Their self-respect should be important to you too. Don’t let anyone cross the line and be able to hurt them. Speak up when you have to. Don’t hesitate to protect them when they are right because that is the right thing to do.
Don’t leave them alone to deal with the world. Hold their hand and assure them you are with them no matter what it is.
9. Don’t compare them to other people
The grass looks greener on the other side. Respect their individuality and love them for who they are. Nobody is perfect, no matter how perfect someone you think appears to be. Truth is everyone has their own strength and weakness.
When you compare,you are actually telling your partner that they are not adequate for you. This will in-built feelings of resentment, envy, hatred etc.
Show acceptance to your partner for who they are. Celebrate their strengths and achievements.
Remind them you are proud of the person they are and love them even more each day.
These are the most essential ingredients for a healthy recipe, you can always add more as per your taste.